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One thing the women I work with often ask me is how they can create consistent self love and self care practices that stick.

I was chatting to a client about this today and reflecting on my own approach to personal well being as a busy entrepreneur, partner and mother with the same level of challenges, goals and ball-juggling that my clients face.

Sometimes when I hear the word ‘consistency’ my energy drops – I sense the pressure of trying to integrate yet another routine into my schedule. I notice this can feel like one more impossibly high standard I’m imposing on myself which, ultimately, means that I’m setting myself up to fail.

When it comes to matters of the heart, relationships or physical intimacy we have to be very careful about this. Sensitivity and flexibility are key components of the self compassion we all need.

High standards and expectations of perfection will only compound those ‘not good enough’ feelings that we’re trying to heal.¬†Relentless routines can contribute to boredom or the choice to switch off and stay physically or emotionally numb, and that’s counterproductive when it comes to self love and self care.

That’s why my approach to consistency is a little different.

How about making a beautiful mindset the only consistent thing you commit to when it comes to self love and self care?

If you start your day showering yourself with loving, respectful thoughts and you begin to honour your needs with compassion by listening closely to what your mind, body and soul are calling for, that’s a positive, powerful routine even you can fit in.

In practice this means enjoying an unlimited, flexible and responsive menu of self love and self care choices that’s always at your fingertips.

Whether you choose to spend an hour pampering yourself lovingly today, whether your mind needs to be soothed for ten minutes with a short guided audio or whether your body and soul is calling for an invigorating walk in the forest, the fact is that when you make the compassionate choice to honour what you need consistently, that elusive sense of self love and self connection finally feels like it’s beginning to stick.

So stop judging yourself as inconsistent and stop thinking of yourself as that woman who just can’t embrace change.

Be the woman who makes a compassionate choice to match the moment Рevery single day. 

IIF YOU’D LIKE TO WORK WITH ME TO DEVELOP GREATER SELF LOVE OR FIND MORE COMPASSION FOR YOURSELF ON YOUR JOURNEY OF HEALING, DROP ME A LINE: info@rhiankivits.com